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Why Guys Don’t Want To Be Friends With Girls Who Breaks Up With Them…

Nathan — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 21:59:15 +0000

Found this comment on Reddit and thought it was a great way to explain this.

I know a girl who broke up with a guy and she told him she wanted to “still be friends.” He said, “No thanks.” She wondered why he couldn’t fall back to being just friends after they had a romantic relationship. I came up with the ”McDonalds Analogy” to try and explain it in a simple way that would help all women understand this tough question.

Imagine if you went to McDonalds a lot and ordered a Big Mac Combo meal. A Big Mac, Large Fries and a Coke. You really like this meal. One day, you pull up to the drivethrough and order the Big Mac Combo meal and the girl tells you, “I’m sorry – you can have the Big Mac and the Coke, but you can’t get fries with that anymore.” You think about this for a moment, and sure – the Big Mac is the centerpiece of the meal, but McDonalds has some really good fries and you like their fries with your meal. So you say, “I’ve been able to get fries with that before, why can’t I have fries with my Big Mac combo anymore?” The girls says, ”Well, I just think it is better if you only have the Big Mac and the Coke from here on out.”

At this point, a lot of guys are going to go to Wendy’s or BK and see if they can get fries with their combo at that drivethrough window. But there are some guys who REALLY like McDonalds Big Macs and they might think, “If I keep coming here and ordering the Big Mac and Coke, maybe she’ll change her mind and give me some fries with that later.” So they will keep on getting the combo without the fries until the deal breaker happens: One day that guy is going to order the Big Mac and Coke and then he’s going to pull up a little bit to pay, and someone else is going to pull up to the drivethrough speaker and order the “Big Mac Combo” and he is going to hear the girl say, “Would you like fries with that?”

That’s why guys don’t like to be friends with a girl who breaks up with them.

Tags: Relationships, Women

Learning From Relationships

Nathan — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 18:22:33 +0000

Over the past couple of weeks, I have been hanging out with this girl. The first time we went out, we had a great time. That great time turned into pretty much a weekend of great times. The only problem with this was that she was still in love with her ex. Which I can understand, being this was someone she was with for 4 years. We continued to hang out even though she met up with her ex multiple times, each time she felt terrible about herself and knew she had screwed up. I really thought this girl was cool, and probably not always so crazy about things. So I stuck around, trying not to let myself think we had anything more going on than we did. Apparently even that she read too much into and started pushing me away. Until a final blow out in which the truth came out.

During these final moments I could see she wasn’t really as cool as I had thought. In fact she was a shallow hateful person. She told me multiple times that my age wasn’t right for her, that I complained too much, I said “What” too much. All of these things didn’t make me mad, they made me realize how shallow she was. They made me realize that even though I had sacrificed some of my “perfect woman” ideas, she had not and would not do the same for me.

In the “real” relationships I have had, I learned a few things about myself. I learned that once trust is gone, it is nearly impossible to get it back. I learned that if you don’t talk about things in a relationship you are doomed. I learned to not talk to ex’s. I can’t call what me and this girl had a relationship, but I did learn a few things. Things like, don’t fall for someone if you are just their rebound guy, don’t stick around if thing continually fall apart, don’t think just because things move fast everything is alright. I would have to say the biggest thing I learned is that I am the type of person that wants a relationship, not just a “friend“.

Tags: Relationships, Women

Rant About Women

Nathan — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 15:52:02 +0000

Recently it has come to my attention that women don’t listen to men. We can tell them exactly what another man is doing and how the game is played, but they still don’t listen. It’s like even if we reveal the secrets to the games we play, they will still play the game. I don’t understand it. If a man breaks up with you for another chick, but still keeps talking to you telling you he doesn’t know whats going to happen and he is confused. He isn’t confused he is playing you, he wants you to keep you as his backup plan in case things don’t work out. If a man gets caught talking dirty to another chick then leaves you for said chick, he already banged her. If he said he is sorry things got a little heated last night it won’t happen again. It will happen again and he knows it.

Maybe I’m the only guy who releases these secrets, maybe I have been breaking some man secret code. In any case it doesn’t matter, women still play the game. Its like they can’t believe we would do this to them.

Also, DON’T TALK TO EXs! Nothing ever good comes from talking to exs. I’m sorry, I’ve done it, it doesn’t work. You always feel like crap. Doesn’t matter if you break it off, or if they do. You arn’t together anymore, it brings up those feelings and they suck. Or! They treat you like crap, one way or another. I just really think its a bad idea. I know many people who will argue me over this, but its how I feel, and how I think everyone should feel.

Women are stupid. Women are crazy.

Alright, lets see, womendont’ listen, They are stupid and crazy, and don’t talk to EXs. I think that pretty much sums up my rant about women today. Sorry if I offended anyone, didn’t mean to. I tried not to use derogatory terms, but if I did, remember this is a ran.

Tags: Rant, Women

A Question I Don’t Need Answered

Nathan — Mon, 11 Feb 2008 15:49:08 +0000

What do you do when a girl you like (but you are “just friends” with) gets drunk and decides to spend the night with your friend?

Tags: Women

10 Years Ago…

Nathan — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 05:16:49 +0000

I was standing at the head of the line in Karate class when our instructor got a call. It had finally happen, a very good friend of mine had passed away. We all knew it was going to happen, she had been on life support for months, but I remember my heart dropping to the floor. We had became really good friends over the months before her aneurysm. I remember we used to ride our bikes home from Karate class. Those were the times. The last time I saw her as her normal self was doing just that riding out bikes home. The next morning is when she had the aneurysm, but it wasn’t until a few days later I found out what had happen. I had not seen her at school so I went and found her best friend who informed me she was in the hospital in very serious condition. The aneurysm happened right before Halloween, but she was in a coma until November 20th, at which time her parents took her off life support and died at 6:52pm I believe. I do know that her parents donated her organs which is awesome. So maybe there are still parts of her living on. I wonder what ever happen to Jay and Beth, I know they got divorced, and Beth was still shaken up over Jessica’s death for years afterwards, but I would still like to say hi to them. Anyways ten years later and Jessica is still a big part of my life. I don’t think about her everyday, but I have made her birthday part of my everyday life.

I will always love you Jessica Scott. You where the one person I wanted to be friends forever with and never got the chance. I hope you had a great time in out little city of Schofield Wi

Tags: Feelings, Jessica-Scott, Women

Fight with an Ex in a Dream

Nathan — Thu, 08 Nov 2007 22:06:25 +0000

Lets start with a friend telling me that my ex started dating someone she works with. I always had this thought in the back of my mind and figured this was part of the reason we broke up. I have nothing to back this up, or do I want anything. But for some reason hearing my ex has started dating again, put my head into a weird state. I haven’t talked to my ex in months. I thought we were going to be friends, but apparently that didn’t work out, which is probably for the best. Anyways this all bring me to last night, in which a crazy dream ensued. The dream starts with me showing up at her apartment, and we start fighting. We are yelling and swearing at each other, then some how the fight moves outside to the parking lot. After what seems like a long time things start to calm down, and we end up back in her apartment. We made up and we were back together again. Then I wake up. This fight was like one straight out of a movie, except I was fighting with my own imagination. I was fighting as myself against an ex who I was creating dialog for. I know its crazy.

I found myself thinking about this dream today, wondering if I was going insane. Thats how real the dream felt. I have thought about contacting her, but I don’t know that that is a good idea. I know how our relationship was and its something I don’t want to go through again. But I do miss having a person in my life, a person I feel is all about me, and will be there for me. Oh well life moves on. Hopefully I don’t have the same dream again, or I will really think I am going insane.

Tags: Dream, Fight, Women

No Socks

Nathan — Mon, 29 Oct 2007 05:58:16 +0000

Friday: After work I stalked Steve, then followed him back to his house where thinks got a little weird. Ok not really but while there someone posted a link to a craigslist missing connection post that was for me. The blond from Phreaknic really did think I was cute. Then Brian and I headed to the ACM Halloween party, where I spent $10 dollars for tickets and didn’t win a damn thing. Left about 10:30, hit the sack about 2am.

Saturday: Got up around 10am, headed to The.Narro.ws around 2pm. Stalked Steve a little more at CompUSA. We both tried to buy something and the price was wrong. Every time I go into that place the prices are wrong. Anyways I finally left Steve alone, and went to the.narro.ws. Played around with some computer stuff, then left to pick up Kerri about 6pm. We had dinner at some Mexican place with Matt, Kat, Bob, Kensey, and Conrad. Then Wal-Mart where she stole some glasses, and we took way to long looking at snacks. After Wal-Mart we both went stalking Steve at his house. Anyways the party was good, but I didn’t have that great of a time as Kerri decided Brian was way more intersting. But really I had made up my mind about her earlier that evening. Once I dropped her off I found out she left her coat, so I have to see her at some point to give it back. All in all it was an OK day.

Sunday: I was lazy all day. So lazy in fact I didn’t even put on socks, or walk outside. I just sat in from of the tv/computer all day. Installed Leopard and got caught up on TV shows. Great day of doing nothing worth wild. I loved it.

Tags: Alcohol, Craigslist, WalMart, Women

Three Sentences

Nathan — Thu, 16 Aug 2007 23:47:11 +0000

“I like you. I love you But I am not in love with you” -Kim

Tags: Women

I’m not good at poker

Nathan — Mon, 14 Aug 2006 02:52:11 +0000

First, I wanted to say that I have been seeing an awesome girl by the name of Kim. Thought you all might want to know that since this post is about playing poker with some of her friends.
So last night Kim and I want to play poker with some of her friends. What a great time I had, and what a great way to lose $3. Her friends were really cool people. Just hanging out drinking playing cards, it doesn’t seem special but its far better than the drama that used to be my ex’s friends. So needless to say, I liked hanging out with these people and they really made me feel like I fit in. Anyway on to the poker game. I bet everything I had which wasn’t much on 2 pair or 3′s and 5′s or something small like that, and was beat by 3 of a kind. So there I sat, chipless, and feeling like a looser. But I helped Kim stay in the game, to the end. She finished 3rd. She just sat there folding on like everything. She did a great job. The only think I wish is that my tumour wasn’t killing me and that I would have felt a lot better. All in all I had a wonderful time, and can’t wait to win my money back. Thanks Babe. **KISS**

Tags: Friends, Games, Medical, Women

I think I have a brain tumor…from women

Nathan — Wed, 12 Jul 2006 03:14:53 +0000

I am starting to think I have a brain tumor. I have had a hardback for 3 days now. It is on the back of my head a little above my neck. I have been thinking it was just that i turned my neck wrong, and its actually my neck and not my head that hurts. But I’m starting to think I’m wrong. It does seem to get worse when I move by head it a certain direction….so again…could be the neck. I don’t know but if it keeps up, I will have to go see someone about it.

Women are crazy. One tells me she just wants to be friends, we all know how that always works out. Then another one tells me its not practical to have a relationship right now, cause she is moving, and also she doesn’t want to gang out with me cause she thinks she might do something she doesn’t want to I don’t get this, none of this…I guess its just the games that they play.

Tags: Health, Women